Don’t worry about who is right. The problem now is she is hugely overwhelmed. But ADHD does significantly affect the other partner in the relationship, often in predictable ways. Despite having the normal attractive traits, in good health and good shape, social and confident, a decent job and interesting hobbies, I find it difficult appealing to people romantically. Also, since I started seeing a therapist to try and be better, it helped immensely with helping me "chill" I definitely had NO chill when it comes to things that excite me. Some of that was due to my family culture or lack thereof. Some ADHDers can really use this to their advantage. We hangout usually once a day and communicate well. He’s been like this for years. I (26/f) had a lot of these troubles all my life. First, this isn’t a pity seeking post nor a blame game post. Distraction I, she’s a real catch, super good looking, intelligent and have the same morals and same sense of humour. Find out how doctors diagnose this condition if you’re older than 17, and what your next steps should be. Weekly threads to plan and notice the positive in our lives. Now to provide background on myself. Before I was with my current SO, I would never be in a relationship with a "normal" person for more than 2 weeks because I would lose interest almost instantly. and The ADDed Dimension, notes that ADHD impacts every area of life, including intimate relationships. Medication, meeting lots of people, and having a close, securely attached role model can all help. I have another Reddit account, but I just made this account and I want to keep this post as private as possible Sign in. But if you resort to any of the following, you could wind up sabotaging your relationship. I had a step father that groomed me and raped me from 11 to 15. Press J to jump to the feed. The combined negative impact of online pornography and ADHD is proving to be a silent threat to the health and well-being of many young males and adults. My first couple years in college I realized that the glorified having multiple girls available to you wasn't actually that great. Any advice on something for this confusion??? ADHD symptoms create significantly more stress for the couple. Sounds like anxious attachment issues, and it is pretty common with ADHD. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 4 yrs into our marriage. The pandemic hit and after 7 weeks appart we decided she would move in with me. We met working together in music and and At the time she bad a bf. But, if symptoms of attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) are not properly acknowledged, treated, and accepted, they can — … I have been single for 3 years and during this time I have been involved in 4 relationships. Falling in Love with ADHD. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. During the breaks I am in a constant fog and struggle putting sentences together. Go on a date every week. ADHD symptoms can be very intrusive and make life a lot more stressful. I used to see my future with her and kids etc... and I just want to get back to a place I was a few weeks ago before this massive wobble but currently just putting LOADS or pressure on myself and have also agreed it might be best for the short term to have some space appart until I get back on my feet as I’ve just taken citalopram 10mg.. For someone like me that’s done so much self help I really feel like everything’s so thought through and it’s overwhelming! We just have to be ourselves. My husband and boys are my world and I would die inside without them. We have two boys, 8 and 4. Misunderstandings can lead to frustration and, if unresolved, resentment. Now I can see that I’ve had a massive wobble and she cared so deeply it almost scares me to think I’ve come this far without realising what’s in front of me. During those years, I noticed a disturbing trend amongst my peers and fellow emerging entrepreneurs. For people who are in relationships with adhd, can your partner act like a stimulant for you?